“I have a 6-year-old daughter. In general, I try to participate in her upbringing by faithfully following in the footsteps of my wife, but nevertheless, I feel that I have not yet found the golden section of communication in our relationship. What can I do? ; “
We can do things with our children and yet not be able to develop close bonds with them. In fact, there are times when we are not sure how to interact with them. Some dads (and / or moms) sometimes need a little help to feel this connection.
First of all, it is very important to get to know our children. We may think we already know our children, but is that so? Do we know what they are passionate about? Let’s spend some time observing them. What shows do they watch on TV? Do they prefer to stay home and read books or do they prefer to go out with friends? We can understand a lot about a child’s inner world depending on how he manages his free time.
It is also important to note their “language” . How do our children speak? What are they talking about? Are they talking about friends, animals, celebrities? So let’s listen carefully to the subject of the debate and even if we want to intervene, let us not intervene.
Almost all of us benefit by listening carefully to each other. In fact, when we are parents, our ability to listen carefully is even more important. Let’s try not to be critical of children by emphasizing only the points where they make mistakes. Instead, let us listen, let us try to understand what they want to tell us, without reacting.
One way to develop a close family relationship is to share parts of ourselves – our time, our thoughts, our personality. As important as it is for our children to learn, it is just as important for our children to learn for us. Let’s try to share with them things we like to do, thoughts and thoughts we have about life. Our children will appreciate it and will understand us, as they will now understand the reasons behind our every action.
A “cold” relationship with mom can occur in a marriage, a divorce or an extramarital affair. Similarly, a “warm” relationship can exist equally in all three cases. No matter what case we belong to, let us learn to perceive our relationship with the other parent as a cooperative relationship on which our child’s upbringing is based. So in caring for the relationship with the mother, dads have more opportunities than children to develop a close relationship with them.
Alexia Stathaki, Psychologist